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Divorce Expenses: Don’t Be Taken to the Cleaners

By Colleen Honquest Divorce is not only difficult, it can also be a major hardship. Pursuing mediation could potentially keep costs down, keep you out of court and help you maintain power over decisions that will affect your respective futures and children, if applicable. In the event you’re navigating a high-conflict divorce, hiring an attorney might ultimately be necessary. There are ways to control costs. If you are working with an attorney, be aware of how you are being billed. Ask questions like “If we have a five-minute phone conversation, will I be billed? What about text messages?” Make sure you are getting a monthly statement. This is important as it will make it easier to budget for legal fees and also to look for mistakes in billing or questions that you may have regarding billing by ancillary staff. Be aware that you hired your lawyer and that you do have a say in your

Family Lawyers: Why You Should Consider Having Your Client Work With a Divorce Coach

By Colleen Honquest Attorneys are retained to represent the best interest of their clients and advocate for them in court. Therefore, clients depend on their attorneys, as experts, to gather pertinent information and investigate the legal and financial issues to settle the business part of the divorce. However, it can be very difficult for clients to distinguish business matters from the emotional issues of divorce. Emotions are interwoven with all of the issues and decisions that divorce presents. As we all know, there is no emotional justice in the court system. A Divorce Coach can serve as a personal mentor, throughout the process, and assist clients in separating the emotional stress from the business side of divorce. A coach spends a great deal of time educating clients as to how to focus on the business aspects and goals that they want to achieve to have a more peaceful life. One of the biggest sources of

Avoid Costly Mistakes in Your Divorce

By Colleen Honquest You don’t have to be a lawyer to be an expert in family court. No, simply go through the family court system with a nasty ex, and, you too, will be an expert. Granted, your expertise will come at a very high price. If you are dealing with an ex with a “difficult personality”, you will soon find that the scales of justice are not tipped in your favor in family court. The chaos and confusion that will ensue as you get bombarded from your ex and his/her lawyer will tie up all of your mental and financial resources for months or years to come. You will then hire (and fire) a few sets of lawyers as you find out that most lawyers do not understand how to deal with High Conflict Divorce. You will spend a LOT of time and LOTS of your hard-earned money in

Divorcing a Narcissist? You Need Boundaries to Prevent Post-Separation Abuse

By Colleen Honquest The most frequent types of questions that I hear from people who are separated, or divorcing are those that involve how to respond to an ex-spouse whose calls, texts, and emails are negative and harassing in nature. Usually, there has been a pattern of abuse in the marriage and the separation or divorce tends to escalate the abusive behavior as the ex-spouse feels a loss of control. Should I respond or not? The spouse who is the target of the harassment doesn’t know if they need to respond and often feels compelled to respond so as not to be seen as non-communicative by the Court. If they are working with a lawyer, they are often not given clear direction as to how to respond in a way that shows that they want to co-parent and communicate but not on the abuser’s terms.   I tell my clients that when they

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