Skip to content

How to Interview a Potential Lawyer to Represent You in a High-Conflict Divorce Case

How to Interview a Potential Lawyer to Represent You in a High-Conflict Divorce Case by Colleen Honquest When professionals don’t understand high-conflict personalities, cases are prolonged, resolutions do not truly address problems, and lawyers and divorce professionals become distracted by their dramas. Hopefully, as more divorce professionals understand high-conflict personality disorders, the legal system will provide the structure to focus the high-conflict person on learning self-management skills rather than letting them tie up the courts with long, drawn out divorce cases. However, for now, our courts have a mental health problem and the high-conflict cases are clogging up the system and costing legions of clients (and society) millions of dollars.  If you are going into a divorce with a high-conflict individual, you will want to make sure that your lawyer understands the specifics of what they will be dealing with in your case. High-conflict cases can get very expensive very

Five Reasons to Represent Yourself in High-Conflict Divorce Disputes

Five Reasons to Represent Yourself in High-Conflict Divorce Disputes: You know your case better than anyone.   You are the best advocate for your case as you know what happened, when, and all the details of your relationship.  It has most likely taken you years to get to the decision to divorce and to collect and find all the information (and evidence) that you need for your case can seem overwhelming.  If it is going to be time consuming for you to gather your data, imagine how much a lawyer will charge you to go through all of your documents and relationship history.  A lawyer may be a legal expert but if you have a sneaky or high-conflict spouse, he or she will make every step of the process difficult and expensive.   You know the main issues and, hopefully, your end goals.  You have a huge stake in the outcome, so

Divorce Expenses: Don’t Be Taken to the Cleaners

By Colleen Honquest Divorce is not only difficult, it can also be a major hardship. Pursuing mediation could potentially keep costs down, keep you out of court and help you maintain power over decisions that will affect your respective futures and children, if applicable. In the event you’re navigating a high-conflict divorce, hiring an attorney might ultimately be necessary. There are ways to control costs. If you are working with an attorney, be aware of how you are being billed. Ask questions like “If we have a five-minute phone conversation, will I be billed? What about text messages?” Make sure you are getting a monthly statement. This is important as it will make it easier to budget for legal fees and also to look for mistakes in billing or questions that you may have regarding billing by ancillary staff. Be aware that you hired your lawyer and that you do have a say in your

Family Lawyers: Why You Should Consider Having Your Client Work With a Divorce Coach

By Colleen Honquest Attorneys are retained to represent the best interest of their clients and advocate for them in court. Therefore, clients depend on their attorneys, as experts, to gather pertinent information and investigate the legal and financial issues to settle the business part of the divorce. However, it can be very difficult for clients to distinguish business matters from the emotional issues of divorce. Emotions are interwoven with all of the issues and decisions that divorce presents. As we all know, there is no emotional justice in the court system. A Divorce Coach can serve as a personal mentor, throughout the process, and assist clients in separating the emotional stress from the business side of divorce. A coach spends a great deal of time educating clients as to how to focus on the business aspects and goals that they want to achieve to have a more peaceful life. One of the biggest sources of

Sign Up and Start Learning